The Zen of Doing Dishes

If I could eliminate one kitchen appliance, I would(someday the leaders of this world will hear from
eliminate the automatic dishwasher. I would bringme), and to daydream and to make plans to bring
back the two-legged human dishwasher andmy day dreams to life. Sometimes I don't even
banish the two-prong electricalthink, I just allow myself to Be (in the moment).I
dishwasher.Dishwashing is a wonderful solo kitchenlove to watch, and to consider, how the hot
activity. It is also a wonderful social kitchenwater and the detergent melts, like magic, the
activity and it should be celebrated andgreasy remains of a meal. I like to plan my
preserved.An automatic dishwasher is one ofattack: should I do the pots and pans first, or
those things that are absolutely unnecessary in ashould I let them soak while I wash the dishes;
kitchen. You cannot, easily, eliminate a stove or ashould I do the silverware first or the glasses? All
refrigerator, but the automatic dishwasher isof these questions have easy answers which is a
dispensable. It unnecessarily wastes energy, and itrelief considering that most of life's questions are
is usually (despite the manufacturers' claims to thenot so easily answered. I love the fact that
contrary) inefficient. It takes a job that candishwashing has a beginning, a middle, and an end.
generally be completed in a half hour and itThere are few things in life that are that simple
expands it to a marathon job that can take anyand again, this is a relief considering the intricacies
where from an hour to twenty-four hours, orof our lives where no chore or problem lends
more, depending on how long it takes someoneitself to a simple plan or conclusion.Washing dishes
to decide to unload the washed dishes. It is myby hand also brings families together. It is a
observation that in many homes with electricperfect time for people to gather together after
dishwashers, most, if not all, the dishes remain ina satisfying meal to work with each other. Family
the dishwasher and the kitchen cabinets are barestores are told and relived, problems are
requiring the homeowner to have to set the tablediscussed and solved, dreams are confided and
from the dishes that are in the dishwasher. Orsupport given, jokes are told and enjoyed and,
even worse, I have observed in these homesseamlessly, the chore is done.When I was young,
that when clean dishes are required, the cabinetsthis kitchen clean up was solely the domain of the
are not only bare of clean dishes, but theladies. As a young child, I would stay in the
homeowner has forgotten to turn the appliancekitchen just to listen to my mother and my aunts
on and therefore there are no clean dishes anddiscuss their lives gossip, to help solve each
everyone has to eat off paper plates until theother's problems, or laugh at each other's joys. In
load is (finally) washed.Why wash dishes by hand?many ways, it was the post dinner meeting of
There are more reasons that I can describethe women in my family that taught me how to
unless I decide to write a book on this subject.become a woman. I cherish these memories;
However, I will describe a few. Washing dishesthey still enrich my life and it is my hope that
can allow you to opt out of more difficult andthese ladies' meeting are still a part of, and will
onerous chores. In my family, I always volunteerremain a part of, today's family gatherings.Today,
to do the dishes after dinner. This is not altruisticin my family, the guys are often a part of these
it is a smart move on my part because shortlyfamily gatherings and they add their own
after dinner, two very sleepy (and thereforeenrichment to the process by contributing their
cranky) kids have to be readied for bed. Whileown stories, banter and experiences to the
noise and bedlam prevail throughout the rest ofchatter in the kitchen. This co-joining of the sexes
the house, the kitchen is an island of solitude: justbrings an extra measure of fun to the activities
me and the dirty dishes. When the dishes areand gives the little boys in the family, along with
done, peace has been restored in the house andthe little girls, an opportunity to store these
the little angels, all warm, snug, and ready for bedjoyous memories that will, in time, enrich their
are presented for night-night kisses andlives.There are many electric appliances that we
bed-d-bye. Washing dishes by hand allows you tocannot do without, but the automatic dishwasher
work out feelings of anger and frustration. Youis clearly not one of them. If you happen to own
can bang your pots and pans to your heart'sone, do not despair because it can put it to good
content and no real harm is done, nor will youuse as an extra counter space, an extra storage
have any complaints from the rest of the familyplace for the kid's toys, even an outdoor
who are either glad that they are not in harm'scontainer for your trash bags. With a little
way or happy that they are not doing the dishesimagination you will find a way to make the
themselves. For me, doing dishes by hand allowsautomatic dishwasher work for you--just not in
me quiet time to think about the complexities ofthe way the manufacturers envisioned.By
life, to think about the difficult problems of theMaureen R. SinclairSubmitted to Online Cooking by
world and ways to solve those problemsMaureen R.